Learn As I Do

Today I got my first pop up ad for my fresh roasted whole bean coffee. I am giving samples to people I know to try it. I think part of branding is getting people to try it. I am doing what it takes to get the word out. I am using my blog to bring awareness to my coffee. It's part of a growing process for me.

I am learning conversion rates and other marketing stuff. I took a webinar yesterday to get more information on how pop ups are good for marketing. I am also learning to find better companies that can help me bring my conversion rates into actual sales.

Something I Look For A Potential GF

One of the things I look for a GF is someone who is not jealous when I talk to women. I understand it is not easy when others find one person attractive and some insecurity issue. I don't expect my GF to be perfect. The one thing is I talk to women alot. I don't go out with every single one. I have my boundaries and so do they.

It's true that other women go past boundaries when meeting a guy, if they are not happy in their current relationships. I cannot control how other women feel about me. All I can do is keep my boundaries if they go overboard.

My Gf has to know I will be doing business with women from all walks of life. It is part of the job. I know that making time for my GF to make her feel secure in a relationship is one of the things I will be working on. I think once she finds out why I chose her and the things we share is something other women won't have in common with me.

Only she knows it and will enjoy it more than I do. I also look for someone who has business sense. Someone who works for herself and enjoys creating jobs for other people. I don't mind helping her as long as I don't move furniture.

Good Thing

I am grateful today that something good is coming in the mail. It is something I can help sis with. I got yoga in the morning with her. Our practice starts early now since the weather has been hot lately. I am happy that sis is been working on her side crow. I am still working on opening my hips more and have not done my handstand yet against the door.

Dream About My Past Job

I think it is time for me to release this memory by sharing this in my blog. I don't work for this company anymore since 1999 and of course I won't mention the name of the company. I think by letting out my frustration in writing will finally keep this dream from occurring.

I used to work for this gift shop. One of the managers that my mom knew, gave me the recommendation to work for them in starting position. Anyway, I started with one of the gift shops and that one was one of the best group of coworkers I ever had. In the 5 years I worked for them, I was transferred 3x. One was a request.

It was the last gift shop location where I had problems with. The people who were the same ethnic group did not like me one bit because I do not share their old country mentality and they all live in the City of Carson. I did my best to get along after work but it is usually the same pretentious attitude.

The sad part is they did not like the fact that my closest friends were the Chinese, Korean and Japanese people at my work. Actually I like people outside my race because I don't have to deal with the bs and formalities of trying to fit into a mold of an ethnic group.

One of my old supervisors two of them older did not like me one bit. I used to work as a part time travel agent and instead of supporting my small business, he went directly to my superior and left me high and dry. The other older supervisor accused me of not transferring on paper merchandise that was supposed to go to one of the satelite store. He blamed me and the female supervisor did not fess up that she screwed up and I was the one to blame. I guess he wanted me to be written up for it.

Anyway, the dream was about that same supervisor that blamed me for something I did not do wrong. I saw myself working for them in the same workplace. I know in real life I will never work for them. I actually quit on this job in real life. I did not like the office politics that was going around. Since 1999, off and on, I've been getting dreams about this particular gift shop.

I think by sharing this and releasing it in public view will finally let this go and I will move forward knowing that I will not look back on the what if's or why people are trying to come back from my past. There are people I will not talk to regarding my past. There is nothing for me to do with them. Nothing. They did what they did and I have things I want to work on like my advertising.

Athena

Thinking of this woman that reminds me of Athena. Much taller than me. Tall women are cool. This particular one is slowly coming into my circle. Not sure if she is ready to take me seriously in a relationship. The nice thing about dating is not having expectations and to learn more about the opposite sex. It gives me a chance to just talk and listen. Learning about someone takes time. We see things the way people are. We want to be their support in their business and their life's activities. We do need someone who will take the jump into business. Not afraid of risks. Understanding that risk is part of life. Being stagnant in a job or career we don't love or enjoy is like not watering plants when they need water. What I admire about Athena is she is constantly on the go. You see her in one place smiling and driving off to another place. It's like a bird's feather that travels from beach to palm tree. If you are reading this Athena, let me know when we go out for milk tea or coffee or chai.

Stale

I visited a small cafe. I ordered food and a drink. I noticed people coming in. I was immersed in reading of a story. I realized as I drive back and forth in this busy street, people miss this cafe. Signs are posted to this cafe. You have friendly staff and tasty food. Something was missing. Word of mouth? Ads? Coupons? Management? Ghosts? Decor is somewhat tasteful but something is missing? An airy vibe to the place would definitely bring more customers? How does that work? A thought into the people that bring their energy to a place. People like vibrant energy. Stale energy comes from people who are rushed, stressed and not grounded in some way. To push energy away you need a water bottle with water and sea salt. Another way to bring energy is to bring vibrant people who can really bring good energy to a place. Just check out places where people are laughing, loud and really enjoying themselves. That is a good sight to see.

Is it real?

After going through alot of disappointments in dating, I wonder whether these women I flirt with are actually interested in me or it is just a dream. Learning the difference between their actions and what they say is the most important thing to note.

If women I know reading my blog, let me ask you this question: If you are really interested in dating me, what action would you take to show me that you are really interested and wanting to date.

Options:

- Ask me out for coffee or a non alcoholic drink.

- I am a cheap date so don't expect me to flash money to impress you.

- We can buy bottled drinks at Whole Foods, Lazy Acres or Trader Joes.

Even if we have some sort of communication, your actions and really asking me out and taking the time to spend time with me means something. I don't expect a perfect date. I want a woman that is real and just want to go out and see where this goes.

The Alchemist PT 2

Dave works at a yoga studio. Part time work with some free perks like free yoga classes. He just helps out in checking in people at the studio. Dave was given an eviction notice by his landlord due to some housing issues that the landlord cannot comply with.

Arielle is in the middle of cooking and she can hear foot steps down the hall. She turns off her veggie curry simmering in the gas range. She opens the door and sees Dave moving in next to her place. She extends a helping hand introduces herself to Dave.

Arielle realizes something about Dave that she can't point her finger.

Arielle: Hi I'm Arielle

Dave: I'm Dave

Dave felt something strange in his body and was about to pass out. Arielle try to keep Dave from collapsing on the floor. Arielle invites Dave into her place for a drink of water and offers Dave veggie curry and basmati rice.

Dave is grateful for her hospitality and that same night, he was getting unsettling dreams.

Long Line

Just because there are women that want to get to know me does not mean they are committed to get to know me. I learned the hard way with you know who and not committing to make the effort. Women have to commit to a date or at least make the effort to text the day before or night if they can't make it. I will see if women really mean it when they want me to see them or they just want me to take the class for them to make money.

Peoples intentions are strange. This is why I stand by my convictions about dating in CA.

Oatmeal

It's interesting to find out that oatmeal does help relieve itchy skin. Just by using quick oats. It is something to take note.

Beach Visit

I was at the beach on top of the awkwardness that my former coworker did to me. Three things that made it a good day regardless of how I was ignored. One, a female at the pier asked me about my dreadlocks. I told her how to do it. I even got her to join any kind of yoga. Two, I was able to relax and listen to music and do lots of people watching. Three, two women who walked by me before crossing the street holding hands decided to follow me and sit by me in the back. Made a "ahem" sound while prepping their hair. This one made my day because of all the work I have done in yoga is paying off. Even two girls were checking me out. I smiled at both of them and they wanted me to make the move. I did not do it because one I was waiting for my friend to show up so I can say hi. These two girls are my validation. Validation of the thing I wanted most which was a relationship. Flirting is fun and being at the beach was much needed. They decided to walk to the pier since I was not even talking to both of them. They were both hot. And yes I would hang out and socialize with girls like that. I just needed my space and whoever those two girls are, I will see them again at the beach or at yoga at another area.

Awkward

Today I was going to visit a former co worker. What ended as a visit and a hello became and awkward scene. I was disappointed and hurt. At least I know she is okay and doing well.

A Fiction and Non Fiction Past Life

This one is dedicated to a friend that I wanted to say hi to but walked away from me and smiled. This one is for you:

In the South Pacific, there is an island called Pitcairn Island. British sailors were sailing when they stumbled upon the island. Many villagers wanted to get saved by leaving the island. A mother and baby infant was one of the ones saved. When the British sailors got to England, the mother and infant learned english. The sailor felt bad for the mother and daughter and made sure they were taken care of by his in laws.  That British sailor took the baby in his arms and told him that she is loved and one day will be the future governor of Australia.

That mother and daughter worked their way up in society until England took hold of Australia and decided to move there. The daughter decided to be part of the government of England until one day was the first woman to ever hold office in Australia. No one knows whatever happened to that British sailor that saved them.

Another story:

After faithful service to Italy, a man became friends with a woman that changed his life. Her best friend became this man's wife. Even to the man's death, this woman came to pay her respects to him. In his life, being grateful for the friendship. He learned more about this woman and the women who are educated and is respectable in society. He is forever grateful to her.

Even in this lifetime, I don't understand why things happen the way they did. It's not something to complain about but to appreciate life itself and the different karma between two people.

Action

The one crucial factor in finding out if someone is really interested in you is how they act. That is the biggest factor in dating. When they say something, it's nice to hear but their actions is what they really do. I was listening to some advice on YouTube and I am glad this person kept reminding me.

Last night Gretchen kept showing up as a reminder. There is no looking back. She screwed herself over. It made her look bad. Like I said there is nothing she can do to get back into my circle. She made a decision to choose her friends over going out with me thinking I was easy going and going to change my schedule for her.

It doesn't work like that. It opens doors to other women who will go out with me and the ones who doesn't just say they want to go but actually mean it. I already mention that I am a cheap date on FB. I like to say it because why would I want to spend alot of money?

Cheap Date(No Gold Diggers)

I love cheap dates. If you really love someone, they would not mind going out with you to free events and cheap food or a picnic with take out. Yes I am a cheap date so no gold digger females. If you are in my yoga class and you read this, go find a guy that will spend more on you. I look for quality women not women who look for someone in a flashy car or someone with lots of zeros in their account. The cheapest you get on a date with me is a $1.09 for milk tea. Eat at home and save your money.

The Reason Why Dating In CA Is No Good

After long and deep thought searching, the real reason why dating in CA is bad is the word choices. Since CA is a Libra state, women tend to weigh their choices whether to go out with a guy or do something else with friends.

I will use my situation as an example. Let's say I asked a girl named Kelly to go to Starbucks with me two weeks in advanced. Now as the week progresses, she could tell her friends she is going to see me.

Her friends will suggest a concert or movie with them. So you  have to ask yourself which would you rather do with Kelly? Even if Kelly wants to go out with me, she would rather do the concert and movie over Starbucks.

This is the problem with dating in CA. The person you want to go with has too many choices. Too many choices will not get the date with that gal. I bet if I was going to fly to Amsterdam, she would dump her friends concert trip and would rather hop on the plane with me.

These things happened before and it's sad there are no simple dates anymore. It's all about where, how much and who's going. The influence of friends is bad. They prevent real good dates and opinions from getting someone to really want to meet this wonderful guy.

Get Over It

People like to say that phrase alot and it shows ignorance. People don't want to hear it. I been eating alot since yesterday. Coping with my sadness with someone I really want to get to know better. It showed me that women in CA like to make excuses. They have the whatever personality that foreigners hate.

Her carelessness and disregard to my feelings have been violated. I am crying at times. Angry and frustrated about the dating scene in the US. I try to look at the bright side, the fact that her jealous streak will come out because these other women at yoga class is now going to make their move.

I bet if it were her friends, she would drop everything to see them. She lost my trust and belief in her. Her friend is my yoga instructor. I had to cancel my Sun yoga with him because I won't be able to make people laugh.

This happened before with other women. Women who think they can just play games and use their whatever personality and duality and ADD to cover up their reality and truth. Truth is I am hurting inside. Hurting because women in CA are too inconsistent. They have so many choices that they miss the one in front of them. The one who really wanted to go out.

I know when I meet better quality women, these women are going to change my life. They will say what they mean and they will be considerate and upfront. No CA head games and pretentious personality. This is why I tell people, don't date women in CA. Date someone outside of the country or another state. My advice for people coming to CA for a relationship, don't go here unless you are expecting to get hurt. Get someone from your own state or other country then come to CA. Don't come single and move to CA. Come to CA if you are in a relationship.

I can't wait to leave this place and go somewhere I can be happy. Not putting up with fake women.

Unhappy

I was supposed to go out with this one red head today at the Buddhist Temple. She "overslept" when she knows we had plans to go out today. Very irresponsible of her and disregard to my feelings. I planned this for two weeks and she wants to go tomorrow? Why? Does my plans have to work out with hers when she knows we were going to go out. I got rid of her on FB and my text. Sorry G you blew your chance. You showed me that even with good intentions, you get distracted alot and you can't even commit to one date to have a good time and you want me to make up for your mistake by seeing you on a Friday.

I did that with many girls where I would move my schedule to fit theirs. No more. No text saying I cannot make it because I stayed up late and hung with friends and at least say she doesn't want to go.

All I can say is you caused me to get hurt and I am sad and disappointed. Don't even try to apologize by going to class on Sunday. I am grateful that there are many girls in my class that would take that chance with me. You cannot pick who you want to go out with and choose not to wake up and make a commitment. That's a dual natured person. You have to treat each person with understanding.

If there are women here from my yoga class that is single and you want to go out with me, you have to be consistent with your actions and say what you mean and you cannot say "whatever" because you think you can get away with it. 

Not Happy With This Yogini

I planned to go out with her two weeks  and we were supposed to go out. She woke up late from staying up late. Very irresponsible. Now she wants to go out tomorrow? No thanks. Got rid of her on my phone and text. I remember my instructor told me "Not all yogis practice what they teach". It is only good when they make money but when it comes to being on time and committed, they flake out on you. This is why I like dating a woman outside of CA. They still believe in being punctual.

Blessing

I feel lucky to be where I am at. To be able to keep reaching my goals and looking good. Younger women who take notice. It was never like that when I was younger. Taking care of oneself is the key. Not just for the opposite sex but also for that person who works hard in  reaching their goals and feeling healthy.

Seeing my dad take meds for lots of things forced me to lose weight and to use yoga as a vehicle to reach that goal. Losing dad in 2010 two weeks after my birthday was the hardest thing for me. It forced me to reflect on what I needed to do to lose weight from 185 lbs to now 158lbs. It took 3 years. I had to change.

People don't like change especially when they know they need it. In order for me to get out of that situation of taking meds, I had the power to do cardio and change my eating habits. It took alot of detox from yoga with twists and poses and breathing.

I am not complaining because I am blessed to meet single women. Women who never got to see my ugly past and the struggles I had with my weight. Only a few from FB have seen my before picture. These are women who worked with me so really like me as a person.

There is one gal from my past that truly liked me in 2004 while working in retail. She accepted me and she is Irish. I hope that one day I will say thank you to her for having a crush on me because she was not only attractive but someone with a wonderful personality. Her name is Kelly. I met lots of Kellys in my life. This one saw my true self. The self that was struggling to find himself. If my path with her back in 2004 came true, she would be someone I can see myself with. She's a redhead. About my size. Maybe in another life, she was my wife. All  know is she is special because many of the women I met in the past were superficial.

She saw something in me back then that help me realize how lucky I am to break free from old conditions that lead me to my fitness goals.

Yes women do take notice of guys that take care of their bodies because of the energy needed to get things done. Goals for career and of course stamina for sex. I am sure that some girl out there will see that and not take things for granted. Someone who will accept me as I am and just for what I do. It is rare but she is out there. I am not sure how many dates I have to go to meet women but she is there looking and dating men as well. There is something in how she will answer my question that will validate what I am looking for. It is something that the universe will keep hidden or from prying predictions. Only she will know how to respond in her own way. More blessings on the way. 

Did not reach my goal of $100

The good thing about not reaching this goal is to continue my marketing for my fresh roasted coffee beans with what I have. I am working on something that will help with my marketing.

Video Coffee

I started my video on how to roast coffee beans. I am doing this video to teach people. I am also marketing this video to teach the basics.

Learning from forums

Even as I was younger, older men in business that I meet to talk about business seemed to be intimidated by me especially Asian men in general. I know that also happens with men in general born in the 50's and 60's.

I find it interesting that generations of men are different on how they look at young men in business. Even though I was hoping to get a new supplier for me coffee, I learned one important lesson. It was to listen but don't have believe what he tells me. He wanted to know how I do my business and when you do talk to people, you will see who believes in your work and those who want to know why you are in business and try to use their "age" to discourage you. This Korean man worked in the electronics industry for 20+ years and just got into coffee not too long ago. He may have travelled to many countries, have kids, family and business partners but one key question I asked him actually told me more than I needed to know and how I conduct my own business is my own not for his prying curiosity.

This is why it is important to ask questions and talk to people because you will learn right away if they believe and support you. I am grateful he did teach me something but not have to work with him on my projects.

Once people understand that when something that works for you does not work for someone else and they try to tell you that you are wrong, think of the validations of your customers. The people that tried my coffee no matter which roasting technique I do works..period regardless of this Korean man's opinion. He only does this for the money and knows only what his business partners tell him or his opinion. Since my roasting strategy works, I am grateful for it and my friends love it.

Learned From A Professional Businessman

I had an opportunity to learn from a businessman from the Coffee industry today about my roasting. Since I am new to roasting coffee, I knew he was going to tell me how things were and what to do. In some ways, I am annoyed because when people tell you what machine to use or you can't do this and that, I realize he was telling me he was competition in some way. The good news I learned from him. Just because people discourage you from doing something you love, you let it go and keep doing it.

My advice for startups is listen and ask questions on their thoughts. You don't have to believe everything on what they say. Just keep doing it. The real results are the people who love your product not the ones who run a business and can't ask to try your sample or they can't tell the difference between them creating their own product and hiring others just for the sake of business.

Disapproval From a First Time Yoga Practitioner

I went to yoga and while doing my 3 legged pushup, a woman in class said "I hope you fall down, show off". I find that when people do disapproval comments and being correct and self righteous wearing "Jesus Saves Lives", one it tells me they really don't believe in Jesus. I've been doing yoga for almost 2 years. Just because I laugh and not take myself seriously don't really mean I can't do certain moves. I think my instructor purposely had us do some of my favorite poses especially with a "bind" and I think my yoga moves speak for themselves and eventually she did not want to correct or comment about how I do my yoga. It's sad when people make harsh judgements, they turn very critical towards other people just because they look different or act different. I am not sure if she will show up next week for class. All I know is she stopped being serious close to the end of class and realized that the yoga class I take is fun. All of the serious people usually don't want to ever come back since they realized people came to class to not only do yoga but laugh and have fun. Too bad for the serious people.

Flyer

A couple of minutes ago, I completed my coffee flyer. There is more work to be done in marketing. I will be needing some help distributing my flyer to anyone wanting to try my coffee samples.

My New Coffee Bean Order Page. US Orders Only

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EHeq0g49gaxkES2FNzVGacDAvl1gvGX22n2aVP22cBc/edit?usp=sharing

My Coffee Beans

You can buy my fresh whole roasted whole bean coffee at my Etsy and eCrater store for only $5 + $3.50 S+H US orders only. You can click on "My Links" on the right hand side of my blog.

7 Days To Raise $100 For My Kickstarter Coffee Beans Campaign

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/2130842041/coffee-coffee-coffee

Coffee Beans Kickstarter Campaign

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/2130842041/828986572?token=035a11c1

This is my new Kickstarter campaign to raise $100 in 7 days! Please help in making my campaign a success!

Spring Sale Over

I got my marketing done for my eCrater store. I am ready to bring back my other items for sale. I did some marketing earlier. Glad I got that one done! Hooray!

Marketing

I did not sleep well last night because I drank my own coffee from Bali. Very strong coffee. Sis did not sleep as well. Imagine if this coffee reaches people and they love it. I would be grateful because I worked so hard to make this work. My marketing efforts are paying off with driving traffic to my site. I will be doing some marketing for GoFundMe campaign. I will be raising $100 dollars and up to make it happen!

Morning Coffee #7 Leaves

I am heading out to get my morning coffee. I've been doing marketing last night for my blog. I am thinking about setting up another Kickstarter campaign for my coffee. I want to use ads this time but want to set up a budget. Stayed up late anxious about my marketing campaign whether or not it is working. I worked way to hard to stop. I know my projects are going through because I see reminders of people in my past coming. I don't like to go back to my past and dealing with past issues. I want to move forward with what I got and focusing on the "present moment).

My Fresh Whole Roasted Whole Bean Small Coffee Sampler $5 + $3.50 S+H US Orders Only

Sent out my coffee beans

Today, I roasted my coffee beans for the people that pledged money to help my campaign. I finally completed everything and mailed it out with confirmation number as well. I am grateful to share this with these people. I put in time and effort to create a product I believe in.

Trader Joe's Meatless Breakfast Patties

I tried this with dinner and it was so good. I had it with quinoa and ketchup. These companies that make meatless options are getting better with the texture and taste of their products. I could not tell the difference anymore.

Acai Bowl

There is this one place where I buy acai bowls. These Asians that run it seem to forget that when it is your own race, they like to remove some of the items and they pretend they forgot and cheat you of your order, Now if it is another race, they make sure they do the order right. Now this is happening nowadays in other Asian owed businesses.

It's sad you pay them money because you expect good service and a quality item. It's good to notice these things because once you know they cheat you of good service and notice how the owner looks at you. If he or she is looking down and not smiling or acknowledging you, know they don't want your business. They like to pick their customers.

Kickstarter

I am getting ready for the funds to come through so I can make the coffee for the people who believe in my project. I raised $35 minus processing fee and Kickstarter fees. April 2 is the expected day I should have the funds. It took about 14 days for the funds to go through. We will see. I read on Quora that it can take about a month for the funds to go through.

Spring Sale @ Alchemist eCrater Store

Starting March 31st- April 7th. Take 30% off during checkout.

http://alchemist.ecrater.com/