Original Place

I talked to sis awhile back. I did not know Dad and Mom back then wanted to move to Canada. Knowing that makes me happy and validated. I know I have something worthwhile to work on. I am setting up the things I need to do to make Canada a reality.

I know many people I talked to told me to "always think about the place you want to be" and to see yourself there. I know I see myself there even when I do business in the US. Having access to that reality is something I want.

That's another thing my future GF will have to ask herself if she wants to move to Canada with me. It is not a case of whether I should or not. I know where I am going and she doesn't have to go with me if she does not want to.

She can stay in the US and do her own thing. I have my wishes being fulfilled and Canada is within reach. Having that said, I got lots to work on like learning French as a third/fourth language. I guess it would not be bad to learn German and Russian too over there. I am sure there are Swedes there too.

Being doing my research to the cities in Canada I want to live. I also want my yoga certification over there. That would be the most raddest thing ever!

My Mistake

I had some interesting "dates" in my life. The difference between my younger self and now is what I gathered over the years about dating in general. It is not a complete solution for men in general because most men who are in "the know", have their own way of dating women and whatever they use works for them. I still going to stick to my ways but with adjustments.

The thing I am tired about asking women out are the flaky ones who say they will go with you and they never show up or they get a better offer from someone else. I felt that being put in that situation really hurts me. My yoga practice and working on getting better physically better is going to help me land dates better.

For those of you women in my circle or yoga classes, here it is. I made the decision not to ask women out on a date. The women have to ask me out on a date. I learned that asking women out does not work for me and my success rate with that is about 20%. I like assertive women who ask me out for coffee. I am not going the traditional route and why should I. I should be more focused on quality dates with women not women who just want someone to be on the side if they have other options.

I don't have to listen to any guy or person that tells me I should be the one asking. You are not me and I am not you. What works for you, only works for you. I am going to do my own thing.

Questions

This is for that woman that chose me to be her bf:

I want you to think about this before going out with me so you will know if I am the one you are supposed to go out with.

Q. What do I have to do to make you feel secure in our relationship when I work and talk with so many women as friends, colleagues and business associates?

Q. Are you okay with dealing with lots of different viewpoints and with someone who has different beliefs and values? For example Buddhist and Asian values.

Q. What do you believe your true strengths are? Trust? Truthful? Business oriented? Balanced? Assertive?

Q. What about dealing with both sides in terms of relatives? How do you balance family relationships between two different families?

Q. How do you handle jealousy, envy and possessiveness?

Q. Are you open to learning other values of others and their culture?

Q. Do you believe that political beliefs are important in a relationship?

Q. If you and I had a very long, loud, heated argument and we both are mad at each other, what can we both do to make up for our differences?

Q. What is the most common activity do both of us enjoy to be closer to each other? For example doing yoga or taking a seminar.

Q. If you had an opportunity to open a business, which business would you open and why?

Trust

I use my blog to vent out my frustrations at times. It's a good release for me especially when strangers I don't even know can understand what is going on in my mind. No one likes to talk about their problems or things they don't want to deal with. I am so grateful to the internet to allow a person to talk about something that bothers them and still be able to heal especially when they are not that very social with people and doing normal things.

What I mean by normal is a 9-5 8 hour job(Typical day but you guys know they can stay overtime since they are by salary) making $40k+ a year. Bachelors degree or Master's, an Audi A4( other than a BMW 3 series), going to happy hour after work drinking, going to upscale bars, picking up men and women and flirting. Going to a sporting event and spending who knows what. Wow, that is an interesting social life.

The interesting about my life is the responsibility and trust my father had in me even when he was alive. Watching over mom and sis. Making sure I take care of their daily needs. These things people take for granted when they have their own family or the life they want.

Close knit family is the karma in this lifetime. The reason it took me awhile to move forward is the responsibility I have with family. It's not easy when you are in an Asian family that is dependent on you in some way since most Westernize countries frown upon that since "being independent" is the social norm.

The good part of all of this sacrifice and all is the progress I am making in my life. My coffee speaks for itself, my screenplays are being viewed, women are noticing me even with the beard. That's right guys, yoga does make you attractive inside and out. I am not just saying that for fun. You want others to take notice, do yoga for a whole year fully committed and you will see what I mean.

Finding opportunity in this country is not easy when your values and social norms does not match societies standards. People look at your weird and you are seen as boring or an outcast.

There are some things I am working on that will help me towards my goal. I know on the outside, you cannot see it. But trust me, in this day in age, it's not how young you are in making your dreams a reality right away, it's more of applying time tested true methods of success not just quick and easy type thing. Wisdom is the reward for staying in your goal to make things happen.

One day when I have my family, I will be ready to commit to my future wife and kids. This woman is around and probably has met me already. I will take my time to get to know her. It's not something you see in films and TV. There is something in how we communicate and my questions will let me know that she is the one worth pursuing.

A Note To Scarlett

This is a reference to someone I met. Names and descriptions have been changed. Only the real Scarlett knows when I say "stare". If you are reading this Scarlett, thank you for making me feel very special. Just by being yourself, made me realize how lucky I am in this lifetime. I know you are working on your projects and I felt there was a reason why you and I met this time. This story is fictional.

A Fictional Story:

I invited Scarlett to my event in Toronto. I gave her itinerary that has her hotel, airfare and car rental. Haven't seen Scarlett in a few years and she came over to see how I am doing. Scarlett is happy now with her family. Her businesses is getting better. What made Scarlett very special to me is her ties to my past life. Scarlett has a crush on me back then and even at that time, it would be awkward for both of us to do something we would regret later on.

Scarlett is very intuitive person. There was something in how she talked me where I knew she can read my mind. It's her look that she gave me that told me we were supposed to work together for a business event. Scarlett knows I married someone I met in Canada. Siri actually knows about Scarlett and the things I told about my crushes back before I married.

Siri actually knows most of the women stories I have. She had a hard time with it at first. I always reminded Siri that no matter how many women I met over the years, that I always come home to her. That is why I suggested to Siri that we travel together for business. She looks for opportunity in each place as I make negotiation deals. Siri loves to travel and knowing I get to sleep with her on my travels.

Scarlett came to the hotel. A private car was assigned to her to be picked up from the hotel to a breakfast location. Siri and I was waiting for Scarlett to arrive. Scarlett was dressed in business casual. After all these years, Scarlett never changed one bit.

We are eating a wonderful meal and Siri had to go back to work. I spent just 20 mins more with Scarlett before heading out to the venue. We have a spot in the convention center where Scarlett had to help set her products and help with the classes.

I found out from Scarlett that "stare" she gave me was her way to letting me know back then that she was really attracted to me. I told her that I knew from the direction she was facing and that gaze/stare was obvious.

The good part is both of us are happy with our relationship. Scarlett was going to stay for only a couple of days before heading back. Siri text me about work and she will be coming home a bit late.

Scarlett brought her inventory and made pretty good sales for the couple of days at the convention center. She even got to teach a class along the way. Now that she has some contacts, she can sell her products in Canada.

Siri and I are happy. Siri did not have to work late after all and we made it a habit to have dinner at home together. Besides Siri runs her own yoga studio in Canada. I am one of her students and I guess when you become a student, there a slight chance that your teacher has the hots for you just like Scarlett's infamous stare.

The only difference is Siri actually asked me out on a date after a few sessions. Not bad for the guy. Siri and I worked hard in our business. It's interesting to note that Siri is taller than me and with blue eyes. Her eyes are medium to dark blue. Those are not contacts, they are eyes of a European beauty.

The Future: Although there is no "Siri" in the present moment, I created a person that is to come. It's strange how even with storytelling, anything is possible.