I had some interesting "dates" in my life. The difference between my younger self and now is what I gathered over the years about dating in general. It is not a complete solution for men in general because most men who are in "the know", have their own way of dating women and whatever they use works for them. I still going to stick to my ways but with adjustments.
The thing I am tired about asking women out are the flaky ones who say they will go with you and they never show up or they get a better offer from someone else. I felt that being put in that situation really hurts me. My yoga practice and working on getting better physically better is going to help me land dates better.
For those of you women in my circle or yoga classes, here it is. I made the decision not to ask women out on a date. The women have to ask me out on a date. I learned that asking women out does not work for me and my success rate with that is about 20%. I like assertive women who ask me out for coffee. I am not going the traditional route and why should I. I should be more focused on quality dates with women not women who just want someone to be on the side if they have other options.
I don't have to listen to any guy or person that tells me I should be the one asking. You are not me and I am not you. What works for you, only works for you. I am going to do my own thing.